Comments for Partner of a Pilot http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com Open and candid diary of an commercial airline pilot's partner Thu, 03 Jul 2008 23:04:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by partnerofapilot http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-2095 partnerofapilot Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:14:53 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-2095 It's okay that he likes those things as long as you can go to occasionally, and that he doesn't get totally hammered when away without you-if you're not okay with that. Bf likes to party occasionally, but not at the expense of his family or career. You'll find your coping mechanisms and boundaries together as a couple. You'll both have to make compromises as you make your way along the steep learning curve of a relationship within the aviation industry. It is hard, and it takes a special person to put up with and trust someone in this industry. That said, like every industry, there are a few a-holes out there who should be avoided like the plague! They are the ones that tarnish the whole industry with their shady behaviour and morals (lack of). Every walk of life has people like this, this industry just offers them more opportunities and scope to indulge it. Hopefully you know deep down whether your man is morally unsound or not. If your gut says he's genuine, but you think he needs to curb the behaviour that could lead to him making mistakes he'd regret, talk to him. Pilots can be guilty of arrogance that leads them to think thet're above making stupid mistakes... This is naivity. They think they will be able to avoid making mistakes simply because they dont mean to do so... That is not always the case where alcohol is concerner though (as us mere mortals know LOL). I'm sure he'll get to grips with it, and get over himself if you open up the communication.. GOOD LUCK It’s okay that he likes those things as long as you can go to occasionally, and that he doesn’t get totally hammered when away without you-if you’re not okay with that.

Bf likes to party occasionally, but not at the expense of his family or career.

You’ll find your coping mechanisms and boundaries together as a couple. You’ll both have to make compromises as you make your way along the steep learning curve of a relationship within the aviation industry.

It is hard, and it takes a special person to put up with and trust someone in this industry. That said, like every industry, there are a few a-holes out there who should be avoided like the plague! They are the ones that tarnish the whole industry with their shady behaviour and morals (lack of).

Every walk of life has people like this, this industry just offers them more opportunities and scope to indulge it. Hopefully you know deep down whether your man is morally unsound or not. If your gut says he’s genuine, but you think he needs to curb the behaviour that could lead to him making mistakes he’d regret, talk to him.

Pilots can be guilty of arrogance that leads them to think thet’re above making stupid mistakes… This is naivity. They think they will be able to avoid making mistakes simply because they dont mean to do so… That is not always the case where alcohol is concerner though (as us mere mortals know LOL).

I’m sure he’ll get to grips with it, and get over himself if you open up the communication.. GOOD LUCK

]]> Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by Mandy http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-2093 Mandy Mon, 30 Jun 2008 20:06:47 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-2093 It's very enlightening to read how other partners of pilots have to deal with the constant pain and insecurity of dealing with your partner being away and surrounded by constant temptation. I swap almost daily between thinking 'all is ok, he loves me' to 'i'm being a mug, it's inevitably giong to fail'. I guess it depends on your man, unfortunately mine is one of the ones who loves to get drunk and socialise with the crew. A recipe for disaster in my eyes. I takes an incredible amount of faith and trust to be with a pilot - and if I'd known what it would be like I would have run a mile. It’s very enlightening to read how other partners of pilots have to deal with the constant pain and insecurity of dealing with your partner being away and surrounded by constant temptation. I swap almost daily between thinking ‘all is ok, he loves me’ to ‘i’m being a mug, it’s inevitably giong to fail’. I guess it depends on your man, unfortunately mine is one of the ones who loves to get drunk and socialise with the crew. A recipe for disaster in my eyes. I takes an incredible amount of faith and trust to be with a pilot - and if I’d known what it would be like I would have run a mile.

]]> Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by Partner of a Pilot http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1715 Partner of a Pilot Wed, 04 Jun 2008 12:29:46 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1715 Hi there, Please note my blog has moved to: http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com (including this entry which is at: http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-838 ) It does get easier with time. You will learn to deal with the irregular times more easily, and he will learn to prioritize you more. Him changing airlines may work, although he would likely still spend time away. I never thought I'd be strong enough to deal with this lifestyle at the start of our relationship; but time and love seem to help you learn! Good luck, and stay in touch :) Hi there,

Please note my blog has moved to: http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com (including this entry which is at: http://partnerofapilot.wordpress.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-838 )

It does get easier with time. You will learn to deal with the irregular times more easily, and he will learn to prioritize you more. Him changing airlines may work, although he would likely still spend time away. I never thought I’d be strong enough to deal with this lifestyle at the start of our relationship; but time and love seem to help you learn!

Good luck, and stay in touch :)

]]> Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by Xander http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1709 Xander Tue, 03 Jun 2008 20:59:32 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1709 My boyfriends an airline host...he gets nearlly no time off and has to serve 8 weeks on local flights in Australia for 8 weeks leaving us with webcam and email to talk. We havn't been together that long - but I have fallen for him, and I think he has fallen for me too...although I am his first boyfriend so I am not sure how long we will last anyway... But does it get easier? I have suggested him change his contract to try and help us see each other more...and he to see his family more... Anyone got words of advice? My boyfriends an airline host…he gets nearlly no time off and has to serve 8 weeks on local flights in Australia for 8 weeks leaving us with webcam and email to talk. We havn’t been together that long - but I have fallen for him, and I think he has fallen for me too…although I am his first boyfriend so I am not sure how long we will last anyway…

But does it get easier? I have suggested him change his contract to try and help us see each other more…and he to see his family more…

Anyone got words of advice?

]]> Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by derya k?z?lay http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1637 derya k?z?lay Mon, 26 May 2008 14:48:27 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-1637 My fiance is a F/O in an airline too and we are about to get married. These are the exact feelings I have about his job. We live together and I hate being alone, hate worrying about whether he has an affair or not, hate not being able to even plan the weekend, saying the same sentence to your friends again and again "Let me look at X's schedule then I will let you know". No matter how much I trust him I always have that fear deep in my heart. And these feelings...can only be understood by another pilot's partner... My fiance is a F/O in an airline too and we are about to get married. These are the exact feelings I have about his job. We live together and I hate being alone, hate worrying about whether he has an affair or not, hate not being able to even plan the weekend, saying the same sentence to your friends again and again “Let me look at X’s schedule then I will let you know”. No matter how much I trust him I always have that fear deep in my heart. And these feelings…can only be understood by another pilot’s partner…

]]> Comment on Reminiscing about the roller-coaster of feelings I had about how I’d cope with the life of an Airline Pilot’s Girlfriend/Wife before he was qualified. by laura Greg http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-779 laura Greg Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:05:54 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2007/12/19/reminiscing-about-the-roller-coaster-of-feelings-i-had-about-how-id-cope-with-being-an-airline-pilots-girlfriend-before-he-was-qualified/#comment-779 thank you so much for writing this page, it is so nice to know that someone is going through the same as me, my boyfriend is doing short haul just now. He was unsure about long haul, but now he really wants to do it, i feel devastated and he will probably need to move country. He keeps on trying to talk me into it, thinking i will move with him, but what life will i have if he is travelling the world and i have to live somewhere where i dont know anyone? i also have low self esteem, i cant bare the thought of the "party" lifestyle. The ironic thing is that im an air hostess myself!! i havent yet told my boyfriend any of this, he has 2-3 years before he builds up flying hours to do long haul. Its hard to keep smiling because it is always at the back of my mind. Right now im not sure what to do, do i tell him how i feel? we have only been together 11 months, is it too soon to question his career? xx thank you so much for writing this page, it is so nice to know that someone is going through the same as me, my boyfriend is doing short haul just now. He was unsure about long haul, but now he really wants to do it, i feel devastated and he will probably need to move country. He keeps on trying to talk me into it, thinking i will move with him, but what life will i have if he is travelling the world and i have to live somewhere where i dont know anyone? i also have low self esteem, i cant bare the thought of the “party” lifestyle. The ironic thing is that im an air hostess myself!! i havent yet told my boyfriend any of this, he has 2-3 years before he builds up flying hours to do long haul. Its hard to keep smiling because it is always at the back of my mind. Right now im not sure what to do, do i tell him how i feel? we have only been together 11 months, is it too soon to question his career? xx

]]> Comment on Aerobatics and Wing-Walking by netto6 » Aerobatics and Wing-Walking http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/13/aerobatics-and-wing-walking/#comment-706 netto6 » Aerobatics and Wing-Walking Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:39:23 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/13/aerobatics-and-wing-walking/#comment-706 [...] Unfortunately, all we got to witness was his take off, as they were far clear of the […] flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/13/aerobatics-and-wing-walking/ Partner of a Pilot [...] […] Unfortunately, all we got to witness was his take off, as they were far clear of the […] flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/13/aerobatics-and-wing-walking/ Partner of a Pilot […]

]]> Comment on Blogging in Cyberspace by May http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/10/blogging/#comment-705 May Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:27:47 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/10/blogging/#comment-705 Yes stay! I absolutely love your blog...check it all the time and your views are like reading my own thoughts! I even have my partner read some stories! Yes stay! I absolutely love your blog…check it all the time and your views are like reading my own thoughts!
I even have my partner read some stories!

]]> Comment on Blogging in Cyberspace by Tamzin http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/10/blogging/#comment-697 Tamzin Sun, 13 Apr 2008 21:26:43 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/10/blogging/#comment-697 Yes, please stay public. I used to read a fantastic blog called 'The life of a pilots wife' It was written by a London based lady and was such a support to me. I was so upset when it was taken off line. Yes, please stay public. I used to read a fantastic blog called ‘The life of a pilots wife’ It was written by a London based lady and was such a support to me. I was so upset when it was taken off line.

]]> Comment on ANOTHER Low Cost Airline (Oasis, Hong-Kong) goes bust! by Harrie http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/09/another-low-cost-airline-goes-bust/#comment-676 Harrie Fri, 11 Apr 2008 15:13:44 +0000 http://flygirlfly.flyblog.com/2008/04/09/another-low-cost-airline-goes-bust/#comment-676 This came as such a shock, as they were actively recuiting pilots, including a friends partner who handed his notice into Thomsonfly on Monday, as he had to give the usual 3 months notice to then find out this over the media on the wednesday, still waiting to see if he has secured his job back! My Bf had also applied to them, so it was certainly a sandwich chocking moment whist i was scanning the net during lunch, i then had to leave a voicemail to Bf who was flying at the time to tell him the 'great' news. I am starting to worry about the industry now....... i better go off and train to be a dentist, i know they are in demand!! :) This came as such a shock, as they were actively recuiting pilots, including a friends partner who handed his notice into Thomsonfly on Monday, as he had to give the usual 3 months notice to then find out this over the media on the wednesday, still waiting to see if he has secured his job back!

My Bf had also applied to them, so it was certainly a sandwich chocking moment whist i was scanning the net during lunch, i then had to leave a voicemail to Bf who was flying at the time to tell him the ‘great’ news.

I am starting to worry about the industry now……. i better go off and train to be a dentist, i know they are in demand!! :)

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